Hey guys! Love this thread. I am ethnically mixed. My dad is Yoruba, my mom is Igbo. It's been an interesting upbringing haha.
I honestly have no idea what kind of doctor I want to be. I know most people say that's okay and you won't know until you go through rotations third year, but I feel as if I'm going to be super behind because I won't know what to tailor my research programs/summer opportunities to. I have done a lot of community service with cancer patients and have been thinking about oncology a little bit. I expressed interest in that a while ago to my mom and she was just super negative about it. She used to be a nurse, and was like "oh that's so depressing, yadda yadda." She just wants me to be an OBGYN or whatever. It's honestly been super annoying sometimes having super opinionated Nigerian parents who are always comparing you to other people. I'm actually looking forward to leaving next year and moving far away for medical school and as sad as it sounds, I probably won't come back often. My dad is pretty chill, but my mom takes the comparisons to the extreme. Always trying to one up everyone or compares me and my sisters to other people, i.e. family friends who are at Yale Med or UPenn Med. This process has been frustrating because I've gotten a lot of II, but I didn't apply Ivy or top tier since my MCAT was so low. But even though I've interviewed and stuff, my mom's always like, "Oh good job, but did you apply to Johns Hopkins or Columbia?"
It's toxic and I'm sick of it.