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I think that parents want to be supportive, but for the most part, don't know how.
I usually run a mix of fierce love and total exasperation with my mom. When I told her I was applying for med school, she was like "So when do you start?" - like it was a done deal and just a simple thing. Then when I told her I didn't get in the first try, she was all confused, like "How could they reject you?"
To her, I can accomplish anything I want to do, and it is this unshakable belief in my abilities that causes her much confusion - and total hair-pulling on my part. No one else has the faith in my abilities that she has, but it causes a lot of anguish when things don't turn out the way she expects.
When I got rejected the first time around, she was already telling me that it was okay, that maybe I should do something else - like she didn't want to see me fail at anything, and not experience rejection again.
With interracial relationships, it was pretty much that standard "Don't you want to marry a Korean girl?" When it became pretty obvious that I was getting married to a non-Korean, she did a 180 and basically said that anyone that I loved she would love. It's a weird kind of acceptance and support, but I'll take it.
What else can I do - she's my mom.
- Tae
I usually run a mix of fierce love and total exasperation with my mom. When I told her I was applying for med school, she was like "So when do you start?" - like it was a done deal and just a simple thing. Then when I told her I didn't get in the first try, she was all confused, like "How could they reject you?"
To her, I can accomplish anything I want to do, and it is this unshakable belief in my abilities that causes her much confusion - and total hair-pulling on my part. No one else has the faith in my abilities that she has, but it causes a lot of anguish when things don't turn out the way she expects.
When I got rejected the first time around, she was already telling me that it was okay, that maybe I should do something else - like she didn't want to see me fail at anything, and not experience rejection again.
With interracial relationships, it was pretty much that standard "Don't you want to marry a Korean girl?" When it became pretty obvious that I was getting married to a non-Korean, she did a 180 and basically said that anyone that I loved she would love. It's a weird kind of acceptance and support, but I'll take it.
What else can I do - she's my mom.
- Tae